Is oral sex good or just a trend or required in a relationship?

Emobileclinic Relationship: Oral Sex

Emobileclinic Reporter:Femi Fayomi

Oral sex is a trending issue among young adults within the age bracket of 15 and 24. As we know, sex in general and oral sex in particular is vested with personal preference and meaning, about 27% of women and 24% of men do not have their first experience with fellatio or cunnilingus until after having had vaginal intercourse, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. Oral sex means using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partners’ genitals. Just like having sexual intercourse, it is a big decision to start having oral sex

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and it is important that you are ready to start exploring in this way. If someone is trying to convince you to have oral sex with lines mentioned below then stand back and question whether you are being pressured into it:

“It doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin.”

“If you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me.”

“It’s not as risky as having intercourse.”

However, oral sex can be a good way to discover new pleasures with your partner without having sexual intercourse. So if you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with it can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. But despite the pervasiveness of oral sex, partners apparently do not often consider the possibility that it might be a means of passing along infection.

The misconception that oral sex is risk-free is widespread among young adults, particularly teenagers. Studies show ”the perceived risk free” as one of the most common reasons for having oral rather than vaginal intercourse (in addition to preserving virginity and not getting pregnant).

There is the need to consider  these questions:

• Can sexually transmitted diseases be transmitted through oral sex?

• Is oral HPV — the human papillomavirus — acquired through oral sex?

• Can people with pharyngeal (throat) gonorrhea pass along the infection to partners?

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It must be noted that oral sex like real sexual intercourse is not immune to sexual transmitted infections like chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, herpes simplex virus and HPV. Some high-risk types of oral HPV have been linked to oropharyngeal cancers, which are more prevalent in men than women.

Although the risk of contracting these and other infections, like H.I.V is lower for oral sex than for vaginal and anal sex, researchers are reluctant to quantify the difference. The variables are too many.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, through its Division of S.T.D. Prevention, notes that certain conditions exacerbate the possibility of oral transmission. These include bleeding gums, gum disease or poor oral health generally, and sores in the mouth or on the genitals. Even the pre-ejaculate of the infected partner can transmit disease.

To minimize the risk of infection, the C.D.C. suggests strategies such as using a condom; limiting the number of sexual partners; and getting vaccinations for HPV and hepatitis B if you fall within the recommended ages. Of course abstinence works, too.

Some people find that when they have oral sex for the first time – whether they’re giving it or receiving it – they feel nervous. Remember that everyone is different and it takes a while to work out what makes someone feel good.

Giving a man oral sex

If a man has an erection then he is likely to be aroused enough for oral sex. However, it’s still a good idea to use your hand to touch him before you start to help work up to the sensation of oral sex. Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace. Even if you decide to give a man oral sex, do not let him ejaculate into your mouth. The use of condom can prevent release of sperm into your mouth and also protects both of you against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV.The question is do you give oral sex wearing condom?

Giving a woman oral sex

It is a good idea to spend some time kissing and touching before giving a woman oral sex. Take your time to explore her upper thighs and the area around her vagina first, to help her get aroused. The most sensitive part of the vagina for a woman is the clitoris, which has more than 8,000 nerve endings. But the whole pelvic area has 15,000 nerve endings, meaning it is very sensitive.

Important tips about oral sex

Oral sex is not necessarily a safer alternative to sexual intercourse, although you can’t get pregnant from oral sex. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis can still be passed on, so using a condom or dental dam (a thin, soft plastic that covers the vagina) is still important.

Although it carries a very low risk, HIV transmission is also possible from oral sex. This could happen if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums.

You should avoid having oral sex if either of you has sores around your mouth, vagina or penis. These could be a sign of an infection, so get them checked out by a healthcare professional. Also be aware that infections can still be passed on through oral sex even if there are no signs or symptoms of the infection.
You need the consent of your partner about protection before you start having oral sex. This appears embarrassing, however, it is an important part of having sex and if you find it too difficult to discuss then it could be a sign that you are not ready to start having oral sex just yet.


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